The Number One Thing to Do When You’re Stuck

Thing to do when stuck

You may have noticed I haven’t been writing as many newsletters lately. In part that’s because it was the very end of summer and I wanted to wring every minute of each day with the kids (and the beach) that I could. But there was something else going on, too. I was feeling stuck and spent.

I didn’t have inspiration, motivation, or any other positive word that ends in –tion. (And I still have a touch of it, or else I would have been able to think of that third thing, ha!)

I did a lot of resting (for me that means reading, being outside, and not being attached to my phone) and I doubled down on yoga classes, and that helped. But the sluggishness was lingering.

So I did what I know to do but sometimes still need reminding to do when I feel stuck: I got some support.

Because here’s the thing:

You never have to go things alone. Not only does it not get you any bonus points, it makes things harder than they need to be. It’s really tough to see your own stuff or cut through your own stories. Sometimes having access to the objectivity and the feeling of being seen and heard by someone you trust is just the magical pixie dust you need to step into the next phase that’s waiting just on the other side of your funk.

Here’s what I did:

I got myself some reiki, signed up for an in-person event with a coach I have gotten to know and really respect, and hired someone who can help me up my game around marketing and branding and all those other words that can give me the shivers. I’m definitely investing in this support, which is good, because we value what we pay for and pay for what we value. Meaning—I’ll be way more likely to take the counsel I get to heart and act on it because I’ve got some skin in the game.

But it isn’t about the money

It’s about discerning that you need help, reaching out to ask for the help, trusting your gut to choose the right source of help, and then being help-able (what’s the point if you’re not going to take anyone’s advice, right?).

Everything you do to support yourself helps others too—the people you live with, the people you serve, and the people you allow to help you (since we all want to be useful). Your feeling and doing your best has ripples that affect a lot of different ponds.

Where are you stuck? Where could you use some support?  What will be possible once you move past this spot? Who comes to mind as someone who could help?

There’s a great big web out there ready to lift you up—you just have to step into it.


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