I help you cut through any internal noise and get clear on what’s true for you—so you can do more of the stuff that matters and stop stressing about the stuff that doesn’t.
When you know what’s true for you, you get to stop:
- Comparing yourself to others
- Stressing about stuff that doesn’t really matter
- Constantly trying to prove yourself
- Inviting things you don’t want into your life
And you get to start:
- Trusting yourself
- Upping your game without wearing yourself out
- Trying less hard
- Feeling good about being yourself
- Finding your flow
Imagine not constantly comparing yourself to other people. Or second-guessing yourself. Or doing things that you are only semi-aware of to sabotage yourself. How great would that feel?
It is possible.
Try less hard
When you learn how to access your own inner voice and—just as importantly—trust it, you reap more rewards while trying less hard.
I know what you might be thinking right now. Something like, Wha????
I know it sounds like a nice idea, but it can’t really be true, right? Because trying harder is pretty much all you’ve ever been taught about how to get what you want—has everybody been lying to you? Have you been lying to yourself?
Well, yes. Not intentionally, but anyone who tells you that the only way to move forward is to buckle down — whether that’s your granny or your inner critic — is B.S-ing you.
Because here’s what really happens when you simply try harder:
- It blocks you from connecting with your inner guidance—which always knows the next best step.
- It keeps you focused on the problems instead of the opportunities.
- It makes you feel defeated, like there’s no way you could actually do any more, and therefore no possible way to get what you want.
- It puts you on a fast train to burnout.
Here are some of the principles I base my work as a coach on:
- When you stop trying to live up to “should” or the expectations of others, you allow yourself to fully show up, just as you are, and that is so liberating and empowering that there is literally nothing you can’t do or handle.
- You can’t change a habit you don’t know you have – therefore, awareness is an essential tool to have in your toolbox (and for most of us, it’s missing).
- There is a loving reason for everything that happens to you – yes, even the crappy things — and looking for that reason changes everything, because…
- What you focus on grows (there’s that awareness thing again).
- When you change your motivation, you change your results.
- Where there’s a want, there’s a way.
How can I, as a coach, help you?
As your coach, I’m your co-pilot, helping you navigate your path (that you dictate, not me) to getting what you want (which you determine, not me). If you’re looking for someone to simply tell you what to do, I’m not your person.
I help you shine a loving light on the parts of yourself you’ve been keeping under wraps so you can heal what needs to be healed and embrace the things that make you the powerful, lovable, absolutely one-of-a-kind creature that you are.
I do this through a combination of mindset work to uncover and heal old, limiting beliefs and negative thought patters, and practical, go-do-this-now-and-report-back strategies.
- A safe space to think out loud.
- A loving, objective voice to point out the things you’re thinking and doing that you’re probably not able to see on your own (because we all have blind spots–everyone).
- A new perspective that helps you see opportunities instead of challenges.
- Guidance that’s not invested in keeping you safe—I’m 100% dedicated to helping you do the things that feel great, even if they seem risky at first.
- Tools to use between calls—whether those are ways to stay connected to your inner guidance, strategies for having tough conversations, or assignments to ensure you continue making progress.
- Someone to celebrate your progress with.
Coaching isn’t therapy, but it is therapeutic. Clients hang up the phone feeling heard, empowered, knowing what to do next, and excited to take the next step (even if they also feel a little nervous about it).
Who I work with:
- People in their 20s and early 30s who are realizing that this adulting thing is a long-term proposition, and they want to lay the groundwork for lifelong fulfillment.
- People in their 30s and 40s who are full-on in the mix of career and family responsibilities and who need help prioritizing and thinking clearly.
- People in their 50s and 60s who realize they now have more time to focus on themselves and aren’t quite sure how to do that or what they want out of it.
I’ve heard all the advice to find your specific niche, and for me it’s just not a demographic. It’s a psychographic. My people are:
- Passionate about a few different things (and often, prone to feeling scattered and/or overwhelmed)
- Naturally curious—about the world, other people, and themselves
- They’ve got an undeniable spark and a big heart—all the ingredients for major happiness and success, yet for some reason these rewards seem elusive
- The things they’ve always done to get by in this world aren’t working anymore, and they’re not sure why or what else they could do
- Yearning for something more, even if they can’t quite name it yet (I can help with that)
From $299 to $599 a month
I work with clients at a range of prices, from $299 to $599 a month, depending on how much we both agree it makes sense for us to talk each month. I require a commitment of a minimum of three months, because that’s how long my experience as both a coach and a coachee has shown to be long enough to create real, lasting change. After that, we go month-to-month. I’ve worked with many clients for years.
Let’s do this!
Taking the next step
If this sounds like you and you’re interested in exploring the possibility of hiring me as your coach, I invite you to schedule a sample coaching session. It’s one hour of all support, no strings.
On the call, we’ll talk about where you are, where you’d like to be, and what might be standing in between those two places. Because coaching is an intimate experience, we’ll also get a chance to see if we’re a good fit, and I’ll be able to assess if what you’re going through is something I feel confident that I can help you with.
At the end of the call, we’ll either say thanks and go our separate ways, or I’ll refer you to someone I think is perfectly suited to help with your particular challenge, or we’ll decide to start working together. All outcomes are great—my sole intention is to help as much as I can.
If this sounds like you and you’re interested in exploring the possibility of hiring me as your coach, I invite you to write me and ask to schedule a sample coaching session.
—Ila Handy, San Antonio, Texas
“It has been a little over 2 years since I started working with Kate as my coach. I found her when I was feeling very low, despite ‘checking off’ all the accomplishments (husband, child, home, grad school) I thought would bring great feelings of ease. I was not feeling ease. I was really discouraged. My ‘try harder’ gear was wearing out. I decided to give coaching a try. OMG it was such a profound decision. Two years hence I am still me, I just have many more choices. It’s like I have new paths to choose from, and I have a sense that it is so possible to do things differently. I realize I may sound like I’m off my meds, but life is freer, brighter, and I am so much more curious about everything.”
—Bob Crane, Mississippi
“Kate, thank you for giving me the desire, courage, opportunity, and expectation to live my life in a fashion that befits my soul's desire and longing. Because of the emotional doors that you have opened I have pursued what I thought was an impossibility—showing at the 4th level in dressage this season. Never in my wildest dreams did I think that would happen. You allowed me to feel its reality.”
—Nicole, San Francisco
“Consider Kate if you want someone to have your back. She truly helped me figure out things about myself that I didn’t even realize—like that I have trouble asking for what I want! We mostly focused on my career goals, but as soon as I was able to describe what I wanted, many parts of my life began improving as a result—including my job (I got a promotion), my relationship (we got engaged), and my environment (my fiancé and I fulfilled a long-time dream of moving to San Francisco)!”
—Sara Jean, Minneaoplis, MN
“I was struggling with turning 50 and how I needed to be ‘x’ by that time. But I couldn’t describe what ‘x’ was, and without realizing it, when I couldn’t describe it there was no way I’d ever achieve it. The very first time we talked, I had an a-ha moment, and there were more to come. She helped me clearly see some things that were in my way to living my life more authentically. I’ve learned how important it is to take time for myself, to make a mind/body connection. I’ve learned that I need to give myself permission to put myself first, without feeling like I’m putting others last. It was amazing to me how open and honest I was able to be with (really) a complete stranger. I immediately felt at ease with Kate and safe to say what I needed to say and to hear what she said. All without judgment. Working with her is truly a gift!”
—Carla, Austin, TX
“When I first started working with Kate, I was multitasking to distraction; trying to be awesome in ways that seemed awesome but didn’t feel that awesome; holding it all together to the point of martyrdom. Kate has wonderful insight and tools to help you meet your needs—especially those you didn’t even realize you had. I feel like I’ve gotten off the crazy train. I’m no longer doing what I think I should do, what appears to be the right path, or from a need to constantly be on track to accomplish something.”